There are numerous Islaamic etiquettes legislated for the man in treating the family, and it is obligatory that he
observes them. of those manners is that he supplicates with the narrated supplication when having intercourse
with his wife. Ibn `Abbaas, may Allaah be pleased with him, reported that the Prophet, sallallaahu `alayhi wa
sallam, said: “If one of you says, when having intercourse with his wife, ‘In the Name of Allaah, O Allaah, keep
Satan away from us, and keep Satan away from what you give us (Bismillaah, Allaahumma Jannibna ash-Shaytaana wa Jannib ash-Shaytaana ma Razaqtana),’ and Allaah decrees a child between them, Satan will not
harm the child.”
One of the Islaamic etiquettes that pertain to the family is that a man should not arrive from travel to his wife by
night without warning. Jaabir, may Allaah be pleased with him, reported that the Prophet, sallallaahu `alayhi wa
sallam, prohibited a man from coming and arriving from travel to his wife at night.
The meaning is that if a person travels and is absent from his family, then reaches their town at night, he should
not go straight to his wife, but rather, should send someone to her to tell her that he has arrived, so that she can
prepare to receive him and fix her matters and affairs.
Jaabir, may Allaah be pleased with him, reported that the Prophet, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam, said: “If one of
you enters town at night, he should not go to his wife until the one whose husband was absent shaves her private
parts and brushes her untidy hair.”
Whenever the family sees that the man possesses religious etiquettes, that would encourage them to maintain
Islaamic etiquette. This is one of the greatest things that helps save a person from the Fire.
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